Never ignore what your spouse says to you. It is a shame that many will do anything to please any other person and not their spouse. This could be a reflection of spiritual ignorance. A wife’s attitude is most times a reflection of the importance a husband has given to her and so is a husband’s attitude a reflection of the support and submission received from the wife.
For your ministry on earth to be perfected, you must seek to perfect the relationship with your spouse. The relationship with a spouse should not be treated as a separate relationship from the work God has called you for. Your first point of ministry should be your spouse. The spouse and children of a minister most times know more about a minister’s personality that any other person.
To neglect the attention required to perfect your relationship with your spouse in pursuit of a service to God is either a reflection of spiritual ignorance or an indicator of a selfish interest. Your relationship with your spouse is the ONLY relationship in the scripture that reflects Christ and his church. It appears that it matters more in the sight of God than any relationship on earth for what it represents.
Many often try to ask the question which is more important – ministry or spouse. The scriptures sometimes never classes things based on importance but rather uses the term ‘first’. That something is first doesn’t make it most important. It only means that is the beginning of a flow. We ought to pray that God should show us how the flow of our calling should be BUT whatever the flow, your relationship with your spouse should be seen as part of your service to God. Your spouse is also a ministry committed into your hands. Seek to perfect your relationship and give no room to the devil to take advantage of a lapse in your relationship to affect your calling. God Bless You
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives … 1st Peter 3:1
In a similar way, you husbands must live with your wives in an understanding manner, as with a most delicate partner. Honor them as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing may interfere with your prayers…1st Peter 3:7